I have had my nipple pierced for over a year now, and it has yet to heal. I don't even know how to fully describe its' situation. First of all, my nipple does not stay hard, i was told this was supposed to happen..but for me it doesn't. It is almost never hard, only when i'm cold or it's stimulated. When it is hard, the ring seems like a perfect fit, not too tight, but virtually none of the bar showing. When it isn't hard, it is like the balls on either end (of the 14g curved barbell) are setting into the holes, sort of. That is the best way for me to put it. Then, aruond either hole will scab over, sort of near the front of my nipple. These scabs will fall off and the skin underneath is sore, red, and looks shiny and brand new. This has been the cycle constantly since it has been pierced. Now, i have noticed two spots close to the front of my nipple on either side near the holes there are two yellowish pussy looking little spots. They aren't really bumped up, and they have sort of opened up and then scabbed over like usually happens. I don't know why these appeared or what they are. I went back to my piercer and she told me the barbell looked good, and just to clean it a couple times a day to try and get it back on track. I haven't done so, and i went back to her about a month ago..this was just laziness.
Also, i am basdically constantly touching the piercing which i know is bad...when my nipple isnt hard and the barbell sets in, i hold my nipple and just push the barbell like i would when cleaning it to get soap through the piercing. There are usually crusties (which i know i should be taking off with warm water) and i am trying to get the barbell unattatched from these scabby crusty things when i do this. I don't want to have to take this out, and i don't even want to take it out in the state it is in, so hopefully you can help me out...i know i am doing probably almost everything possible wrong with it, but i am so lost as to what to do at this point. i would love to be able to attatch a picture to show you, i might try at the end of this.
tonight i cleaned it with soap and warm water, and the scabs from either side fell off so it is really raw.
annnd i can't figure out for the life of me how to get this photo uploaded, so that will not be happening unfortunately. iw ish i could figure it out as my explanation is not very good at all.
thannnnks for any and all help,
i'm desperate


Make a leap of faith, and stop washing the piercing. You do not have to scrub through the piercing, and every time you do you are doing damage. You do not make it heal; you ALLOW it to heal. When you have a shower, wash your chest normally, and allow the warm water to run over your nipple to clear the crusties. Do not try to move the jewelry.
Put a little moisturizing hand cream on a q-tip and moisturize around your nipple (once only for now) and try leaving it alone for a few days. Let me know what happens.
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